There are only few things you should never tell your guy. Some questions and talks might even cost you your relationship.
Speaking as a guy with the weirdest dating history, and a guy that got divorced more times than he got married, I feel I’m some sort of an authority when it comes to doing the wrong thing.
Let’s go over the ‘don’t do list’ :
1) “When will I see you again?”
Every beginner HR personnel knows that when a candidate ask about their salary during the first interview, they are probably the wrong person for the job.
Same rule applies to dating. Don’t ask us when will I see you again, let us ask you out, leave us with a new peak to conquer – a second date!
Once you asked us that question, the manly gland ( a simple gland that controls our live – get laid, get paid, die), naturally switches to the ‘let’s hook up’ mode… or something more like – ‘oh yeah, I’m in… Let’s meet tomorrow, my apartment is shiny and I just restocked my stash of condoms.’
2) “Do you think that she’s pretty?”
‘She is cute, but not as pretty as you!’ (lie! lie! lie!) … Please never ask us that question.
No reasonable man would honestly answer that question (just FIY). Guys don’t like you trying to compare yourself to every hot woman that is walking by (coincidentally, all of them are very very young, way younger than you!).
I understand competition as much as the next person, I even admire competitive nature; But in that specific instance you are asking a question that every man on earth (at least the mildly sane and above) will give you the same answer (and since you usually pick the most outrageously hot girl that walked by, lie).
3) “Don’t worry about it, it’s fine, nothing happened”
During instances of misscommunication, you result to ‘nothing happened’, while what you actually think is closer to ‘he doesn’t get me. No point in telling him’. Our brain is painfully simple, when you tell us it’s OK, we actually believe you!
In fact, you are more likely to get our back that night, than an attempt to understand what we did wrong.
Don’t get me wrong, guys are trained (or rather both designed by nature and nurtured) to take whatever you say as a cleaver mask, we know that there is always an hidden agenda, but please – give us a hint/ sign.
Keep one thing in mind, by the time you finished that sentence, we actually believe that everything is fine, and free as much brain space as possible to think about sex.
4) “…. we need to talk”
First thing that jump to our mind – ‘Was don’t need to talk!’
Whenever you say the above phrase, expect your guy to shut down, and avoid a serious conversation at any cost.
If what you had in mind is a talk about him leaving clothes all over the place; You must find another opening .
5) “I want to try anything, at least once”
Oooh, that one is tricky .
Don’t say it unless you really mean it. Trust me, your guy has way more fantasies than you could ever imagine.
When we start acting on our fantasy, and you back down, it could be really disappointing .
So…. let’s change ‘anything’ to ‘anything but…’
6) “What are you thinking about right now?”
Never ask us that question!.
Most of the time, we don’t think, we react. Other times we are trying to find the perfect strategy for how to make todays’ date successful .
Either way – we just don’t have an answer to that particular question!
7) “You are just like my ex”
Bad Bad Bad date!
What would you think if I told you that you were just like my ex?
Yes factoring your taste, features you find attractive, and your unique chemistry with potential mates, it is safe to assume we share few qualities with (all) your ex (es).
But we want to feel like we are the first, don’t bring up previous relationships!!!!
“I don’t trust you yet”
wrong thing to say in any situation. Why bother if you start from a negative place.
9) “What are you thinking about right now?”
The most annoying question for a first (or one of the firsts) date .
While you spend a lot of brain power figuring out what we might be thinking about at the moment, we don’t think about anything!!
But when you ask us that we do feel compelled to come up with something so we spend time and a lot of energy coming up with something we think you might like.
10) “How many girls have you slept with?”
No No No No! we don’t want to know with how many guys you’ve been with, and we will NEVER EVER give you a real number!
But you do come across as an easier target to conquer. After all you mentioned sex first!
Hope that helps
Let’s hear question that you don’t want to hear during one of the first dates….